The Wait Was Worth It: Why I Stopped Forcing It and Started Trusting God’s Pace
I used to force a lot of things.
I forced decisions.
I forced connections.
I forced outcomes.
I even tried to force healing!
But forcing things only left me tired, bitter, anxious, burnt out, questioning why I wasn’t further along and wondering whether God had forgotten me.
But He hadn’t.
He was just calling me to wait—and I didn’t want to.
But, Sis, I had to learn that my worth was not connected to my ability to perform. I had to learn that obedience doesn’t always look like action. Sometimes it looks like stillness. Like sitting down when everything in you wants to move. Like letting go when you’re used to clinging. Like waiting when you don’t see a single sign.
There is where God met me
Not in the doing, but in the trusting.
Not in the hustle, but in the hush.
I Thought I Was Behind
Let’s be real: we live in a world that ties our worth to our productivity. If you're not grinding, building, or producing—you’re seen as lazy, unfocused, or lacking purpose. Somewhere along the line, I fell for that lie.
I thought that thought waiting meant I was stuck. I thought slowness meant failure. So I kept grinding. I called it ambition— I called it purpose. But really, it was fear.
I feared being left behind.
I feared not having enough.
I feared that if I didn’t act fast, I’d miss what was mine.
But God doesn’t bless fear.
He blesses obedience.
I Let God Set the Pace
Let me be clear—I didn’t just slow down. I surrendered.
I stopped asking God to bless my plans and started asking Him to reveal His. I stopped sprinting toward what looked good and started seeking what was God-ordained. And that’s when everything shifted.
I found peace.
I found clarity.
I found strength in the stillness.
It didn’t happen overnight. The wait tested me. I had to grieve my own expectations. I had to let go of timelines I was emotionally attached to. I had to sit in rooms I didn’t want to be in, for longer than I thought I could handle.
But when I tell you it was worth it? I mean it.
The Wait Wasn’t a Detour—It Was the Assignment
You know what shocked me the most? Realizing that the wait wasn’t punishment. It was preparation.
God wasn’t withholding anything from me—He was protecting me from what I wasn’t ready for (read that again!). He was shaping me, pruning me, growing me in secret. Because when the blessing came, I needed to be the kind of woman who could carry it with grace and not crumble under the weight.
What I thought was a delay was really a divine investment. God was building my capacity, not blocking my path.
Waiting Doesn’t Mean Nothing Is Happening
Sometimes, in the wait, we assume God is silent or still. But what I’ve learned is that while we’re waiting, God is working. He’s aligning the right connections. Healing the hidden wounds. Protecting us from what we think we’re ready for but are not yet equipped to carry.
We don’t have to chase what God already has set aside for us. We don’t have to compete, perform, or stress. There’s rest in knowing that what’s for you cannot pass you—not when your trust is rooted in Him.
When I Stopped Rushing, I Found Rest.
Once I surrendered my timeline and let go of the pressure to perform, I discovered a kind of rest I didn’t know I needed. A holy, healing rest that said:
“You’re not behind. You’re right on schedule in My plan.”
Now, I no longer feel the urge to force what isn’t flowing. I don’t chase people or opportunities. I don’t pressure myself to “keep up.” Because I know who’s leading me.
And let me tell you—His pace is perfect.
His provision is enough.
And the promise still stands.
Final Thought: Trust the God You’re Waiting On
If you’re in a season where it feels like nothing is moving, let this encourage you: you’re not behind, you’re being held. There is purpose in this pause. There is strategy in this stillness. And your future will thank you for not rushing the process.
Let God be God.
Let Him lead.
Let Him heal.
Let Him write the story.
Because when He does it?
It’ll be worth every second of the wait.
Scriptures to Meditate On:
“Therefore the Lord will wait, that He may be gracious to you; and therefore He will be exalted, that He may have mercy on you. For the Lord is a God of justice; blessed are all those who wait for Him.”
Isaiah 30:18 (NKJV)“In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.”
— Proverbs 16:9 (NIV)
Journal Prompt:
Where in your life are you striving instead of surrendering? What would it look like to let God lead in that area?
Affirmation:
I don’t have to rush. I am right on time in God’s plan. The wait is not wasted—it's working for me.